unconditionally give us is beyond compare! Did the vet not tranquilize your dog before euthanizing her? I know his time with me is coming to an end, but I struggle to make that decision. I would like to give hugs out to each and everyone of you.The decision to euthanize your loved one is the hardest one to make,I also made the decision on December 8 2018.Today on June 8 2002 ,seventeen years ago my buddy Oscar and I found each other .What a bond and love i had for him we were never apart always together.I still think and cry everyday for him I don’t wish for a certain day they were all special.Sometimes I can still hear him and feel him next to me,I have dreams that were in the park,at the lake or on a walk together,how i miss him.I know all his pain is gone now.Oscar i just want you to know that I love you and pray for you everyday.I know we will meet someday again. He also developed leg issues in the last year so he started falling in his water and food bowl every so often and getting stuck. !!! In many ways it is like living with a dog with CCD. Yet I’m still hesitant, everyone says he has no life and he’s on some sort of auto pilot. Instead she finally died on her own. We got him as a 5 month old rescue. Called yesterday and made the appointment for this morning. My sweet Ginger is at peace and I can slowly mend my broken heart. They are both on pain meds as they struggle to walk. Joe, my toy poodle Princess was in the same place. Last night he was up all night. He had a stroke of some sort 3 days ago and we knew it was time. Becky,sorry to read what your going through i went through the same thing with my Oscar he was 16 years 8 months old,he was with me for 16 and a half years.I miss him so much I think of him everyday but his quality of life just wasn’t there anymore he did everything that you are going through now I thought I would have him forever.Hugs out to you. I totally agree, a week early is better than a day late. Our vet told us today that it’s time whenever we are ready. I hope the decision becomes clear to you, but I know your dog is in good hands whatever you decide. Now my oldest dog, a 13-year old Dachshund is, I think, showing early signs of CCD, and every day I ponder about if/when I’ll have to euthanize her, and it breaks my heart every day. Teri, you have left me without words. I especially related to the part where you describe how hard it is to euthenize a dog that can still walk and eat. He was always stubborn, but would obey my husband even if it was a struggle. Thank you for sharing. She barely drinks water and lost so much weight since a year ago, she is skin and bones. I understand your feelings. I’ve had Button for 16 years now, got him just when he was about 3 months old. I can only say to you that I will be thinking of you on Wednesday and hoping that one day, I will be as brave as you. Changing lighting, soft soothing music to no noise whatsoever, toys/treats to keep him busy, sedation, laying on the floor with him, nothing works. Following these treatments, if your dog’s condition worsens over a prolonged period of time, then your vet may be able to help you decide when to consider dog euthanasia. Dog bark. Hi Jackie my little Smudge a maltese shitzu had dementia. April was an extremely hard month with the loss of his eye and his crying every night in pain, but he fought through it as he does. I also was told that good vets first, give your dog a sleeping shot to help hem fall asleep first. I am s l o w l y God bless you all.x. Some of us find out the hard way that our dogs don’t always “tell us.” Sometimes they do. Our Buddy let us know. Dear All Lovers , September 2018 was my last SOPHIE day. My son hugged him. We keep hoping she’ll pass away in her sleep, but I am not counting on it. Dear Philip & All, Roberta here, SOPHIES DOGOW…my term for lady who suffered loss of beloved DOG! This is Mark, I posted a few weeks ago re my little boy Peri. Best wishes to you and everyone reading this! Believe me when I say I’m truly humble and I am going to give my lil girl her chance to be as long as she wants to be and the good Lord takes her to be with my other babies. Eileen. Sophie’s mom, roberta. Only 12 pounds, but sturdy, intense, brave, and frankly, bitchy to other dogs. In my heart I knew that I had done the right thing for my sweet girl. It’s only been a few days now that he cannot follow me and his brother, Rusty. But she had to be taken by leash and as time went on, she needed the leash to navigate the familiar pathway back to the kitchen. She is suffering from dementia for the past one year and have seizures almost every month. She was lucky to have you as her person. Sue,so sorry to read about your beautiful dog.I know the decision is a difficult on to make.We wish we could have them forever.HUGS out to you will pray for you and family, Thank you so much for this article. Your article has helped me in terms of making the decision. That’s up to each person, hard as it may be. the first sign was the sundowners then the being too scared to go outside to go to the bathroom. But I do it…whats causing the dreaded decision is he cannot get up 80% of the time. When might that change? Through our tears for sure. I made some dietary changes after the initial diagnosis and we all seemed to start doing a little better. The vet put him on trazadone which worked for a while but now, now nights are the hardest. I sweat this decision but your website makes me feel better that others share this same journey and that others have also concluded that it is probably time and we just need to do what we don’t want to do. & I rescued each other after I lost my Corgette, and Sophie needed a home. I cry every day, but realize that the quality of Sophie girl’s days were no longer happy for her. And I’m very happy if my post eased your heart a bit. .like we did with our dog. It can be tragic to see them decline. But I went in earlier to see if the vet could do something else for him rather than put him to sleep. My vet put her on a comfy blanket and let us snuggle awhile. Ruth, I know how hard this is for you. Unfortunately, there is no cure for CCD. We put our precious Holly to sleep this morning. Thank you all for sharing. Sedated, a dog – And the fact that it was only a few days old is just almost too much for me to take. I now keep her isolated most of the day because my daughters and their children had to move home and I’m afraid, due to her anxiety, that she will nip at one of them. PRAYERS TO ABBY’S MOMMY ! He’s disoriented to the point of not finding the door when I let him outside. I’m sure you have made the right decision for your bulldog. Where he used to cuddle with me he now goes off by himself and sleeps. Dearest Amy & Family, But you memory remains. I knew something wasn’t right but didn’t want to acknowledge it I guess. She sleeps almost all day, but still enjoys eating her soft food. Your girls (especially Charlotte) sounds close to how my little Cricket was near the end. I did wait till she didn’t want to eat and decided to sleep instead as the sign. And at times I have to go out to get her. But I was afraid she would be left with permanent damage if I tried to reverse the process. PS. She has been shaking..much like shivering when cold, we thought that was due to some visitors we had over. almost like im just looking for an excuse to put him down. I know the time for our decision is fast upon us, although we are trying a couple more things. Last year I told the vet about his cognitive decline, and her reply was “that breed can live three more years”. So sweet of you to take turns staying with him at night. Thank you. Yet ended up doing the same just a few months ago, with one of my all-time favorite dogs, with a similar problem, hoping for just one more day, one more sign that things will get better. We worried but somehow she got better around the summer in 2016 , no seizure and less night time panting. Thankyou for this I had my little Lucy put down two days ago, she was a little miniature dachshund, 17, and I’ve spent the whole time since crying my eyes out, feeling like maybe I did the wrong thing or did it too early She’d had signs of cognitive decline for some time, and I’d been worried for some time about her quality of life because of her anxiety ( lots of panting and pacing of an evening, sometimes for over an hour but sometimes with Valium I could keep it a bit better managed). It is the hardest thing I have ever done but I know it is the best for him. Thank You for writing and sharing your story. She is going farther and farther down hill and I’m thinking it may be time to let her go. It’s not unethical to wish you hadn’t taken him on. We have cleaned up three accidents just today. So many of us here know the struggle of “when should I intervene?” It’s so hard when they have dementia. SOOPHIE was my PEARL! I’m so sorry about your dear Jade. She has many accidents and falls in it so she requires frequent baths which stress her out. I didn’t even know he had been hurting so badly! I did have one dog pass away at home. It is ultimately up to you to assess their quality of life and how much they are suffering, and to have a conversation with your vet and other professionals to come to the conclusion that is best for your dog. I’m sorry about Alexis. My very best to everyone participating here. I know she won’t get better… I know she won’t miraculously eat enough to gain back all the weight she’s lost.. Thank you, once again, Eileen for such an accurate description of how it feels to care for a dog with dementia. I agree with you that we are generally not told by our pet when it’s time. Hugs to you, Rosemary. Fingers crossed! and perhaps .. time for a new pair of pups in my house Now she is happy, and my sadness is a bit better. Hugs. He’s a dog. But I bet also that to some people who are struggling with guilt over a dog with dementia it can be a great comfort. We brought him to the vet about a week and a half ago and his blood came back fine, the vet mentioned it could be cancer or dementia. Her rear legs have no muscle on them anymore and she falls into a sit while eating. That sounds so very hard. Over the last year she exhibited the excessive circling, getting stuck, and her back legs giving out. So sorry about little Livingston. I can’t bear to let her go and feel myself falling in to the trap of thinking she’ll tell me or I’ll know when it’s time. They would support us with whatever we wanted to do if we wanted to try different meds. When I went to give him a bath to wash off the blood, his hair started coming off in clumps revealing extensive open sores that had been hidden by his fur. He has been on Senelife, gabapentin, and now tramidol and meloxican. Im so glad i found this info. Mark,I am sorry to hear about your toy poodle i also had a poodle in the same shape yours is in.I had to make the decision to put him to sleep on Dec 8 2018.It was truly the hardest decision ever.I miss him so much but his condition wasn’t good,I couldn’t keep him here just for me.I feel guilty but I had to do it.I miss everything about Oscar and think of him all the time. Know that some of us here understand this kind of pain. It was temporary, we helped her through it. Hugs. I am struggling, keep questioning myself did I do the right thing, but deep down I know I did. I think many will take solace in your words. Yes, they do steal food! I have a dog that the vet thinks has dementia, and now I realize that she is probably right. She had seemed so perfect at times and others she would appear as if she was blind or deaf. The saying, “Better a week too early than a day too late” has become my mantra. I work from home so fortunately I can be with her all the time. That, to me, was the turning point that indicated we were looking at a downhill slope in her quality of life. When Sprouts time comes, we will not let him suffer that way. My main concern is I don’t want him to suffer mentally or physically when I tell my family I think they think I’m prematurely trying to put him down. The vet gave her Trazadone for anxiety. She’s a Peek a poo and is 5 lbs. The truth is that I don’t fully agree with euthanasia. She is still walking in circles and appears confused. At 3am she had complete loss of bladder and bowel control. Thank you for the kind words Joe. Since I retired 5 years ago with Parkinsons, Trix has been my constant companion and therapist. He does a lot of circling & pees in the house with no warning. Your post has made me feel so much more at peace with opening thd conversation with my ex and I thank you from the bottom of my heart. Seeing a best friend, whether that be man or dog, decline as a result of Alzheimer’s is undoubtedly an exceptionally difficult and harrowing experience for anyone to go through. I had the same with my sweet Clyde 2 years ago. I will never have a pet again. But Sammy was so lucky to have all of you who loved her so. Dear Michelle & NEW FRIENDS I’ve been blaming that on her cataracts. I’m 26 and my Yorkie was my best friend – she had been with me through my late childhood (I got her when I was 11), my parents splitting, the angsty teenage phase, everything and our bond was truly unbreakable. Hugs from me and the spirit of Cricket. Throughout the day he paces and pants, shivers and doesn’t interact with our other dog anymore. She’s really progressed this past year and it’s been hard. I made the decision after her decline, and I cannot stop grieving. Luckily she sleeps well at night and through the day. It was the most difficult day because I felt like I was taking a dog that was physically fine to her death. He is the most unusual color, gray or brown (like the dress). Hi Kathleen, Until Zer0, I had never known of a fearful dog who didn’t eventually come out of his shell. They can smell it but they can’t find it. He doesn’t come to his name. I brought a doggy playpen for my dog that had dementia (on Amazon) and it was one of the best decisions I ever made. I sing CRYING OVER YOU, Roy Orbisson’s song. She does phone/videoconferencing consults. We followed many of your suggestions and was able to temporarily able to gain some relief. selfish for even thinking about euthanizing him. I know we are almost at the end but as you have said on this site, it is so difficult when their mobility and appetite is so good. I am facing the same dilemma my Boston which I had since 6 months old is now 14 and I have to walk her 5 times from 10 pm to 7 am a night it’s not just walking her but she constantly cries, she doesn’t like to be petted and if I do she runs away because she is in pain she doesn’t want me to see her in pain and I know she is. Sometimes I think I should have waited longer but I know it was just a question of a couple more months and I would still need to grieve, and my pain of losing her would not be less. And that knowledge doesn’t make making the decision easier. She is now walking in circles, sometimes she is falling. The walking downhill and getting stuck when she was in the back yard. His hearing is almost gone as well. I miss Sophie SO. I have to make sure the bathroom door is closed otherwise he gets stuck behind the door in the middle of the night and starts to whine. Many of us here have had to make a similar choice. She pees and poops in the house, which makes my husband very upset. I assume by now you have been to the vet. He pees on his leg which must be so horrible for him because he did everything to avoid stepping in it his whole life. Right? It took dad ten years and my mum only a month before. Debbie,so sorry to read about Bailey.How amazing it is that you were able to share 20 wonderful years with Bailey.The decision is a hard one to make,I myself had made the decision on Dec.8 to say are goodbyes.Oscar was doing the same as Bailey,I just could not see him in the condition that he was in anymore,did I feel guilty about it,yes but the more I think about it the more I realize it was the right decision for the both of us at the end my little buddy didn’t even recognize who i was anymore,it hurt we were together for a wonderful 16 and a half years that I will never foreget. God bless You All. Once up, she can move around and acts fine, but she only eats one piece of food at a time and that’s after I keep having to show her where her food is. Seven Visible Symptoms. I believe you released him from the effects of this disease and that you did a kindly, loving thing. We started a trial of steroids but warned me the prognosis was grim. Your fixed stare I still wish there was something we could do to keep our friends with us for the rest of our own natural lives but unfortunately we can’t and they rely on us to make the best decisions for them. Next was finding her stuck in corners, like not realizing all she needed to do was back up. Don’t worry about whether or not your vet is bringing it up, very few do. Thank you, Roberta! I would cuddle him like a baby. When Bam died, Sprout became terrified of storms, he always barked when someone pulled into our driveway, and did typical dog stuff. I’m so glad you are seeing a vet behaviorist–it kind of sounded to me like you were. I hate that but it sure can be true. Her name was Zoey and she was the best girl. I have been reading all of the comments,I also lost my buddy oscar to ccd.I had a great 16 years with him.Hugs out to all of you it’s the hardest decision I had ever had to make something I think I will never get over.I miss him so much.12/8/18 miss you little buddy.Think of you all the time. He was so panicked. It’s my life that the routine impacts the most even though my ex and I “share” custody. His personality is gone and I just wish I knew what was the right choice. There isn’t anything I can do for him any longer to make him comfortable. But sometimes, when dogs with advanced dementia still have fairly healthy bodies, we can’t see it. His partner in crime Priscilla was put down after a long fight with cancer. We made that decision right before I found your page. We can’t eliminate all suffering, but we don’t have to force them to go down this road, either because we want their companionship or we feel guilty taking our beloved dog’s life. She doesn’t greet us at the door when the alarm beeps anymore. I know your smile I hope you and your roommate can be on the same page about what’s best for your 18 1/2 year old. She could have lived another year I think.. I was thankful to be allowed to hold her at the end and cried my eyes out. He paces, he walks in EXCESSIVE circles, he urinates and deficates in the hiuse and has no particular interest in the outdoors or other dogs when he sees them. She is like my child. She is 14 + catahoula. It is unfair to Sophie to keep this up any longer. The times when she is happy, really throws me and I am left not knowing what to do. Kate, and all others who are fraught with making the hardest decision you’ll need to make in a long while – The quality of life scales that Eileen mentions and links to are very helpful in making the determination. An “unfair beast” is a really good way to put it. our friends teach us so much, Jeff,just like you i knew someday Oscar and I would have to say are goodbyes also,time sure did go by,never had a bad day with him.About are friends teaching us so much,I have read everything I can about what happens to him and why and while he was alive i have meet and talked with so many people just like i am on here,so I guess are pets do continue giving of them selves.TRUE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.. I found this site as I sit here listening to the seemingly endless pacing of my 14 year old schnauzer. And from what I read all of us have or are going through it. Not just cry but anguish lol. He still follows me everywhere. unlike conditions that are obvious to euthanase ,( last week my girl lost use of its front leg, it was clear to end A lot of us here understand all too well about the uncertainty. We still have her full sister and her sister-from-another-mister with us, so are concentrating on them. Thankfully I found this article and bought your book, and this article really struck a chord with me. I’m so sorry, Pamela. It should have been to end her suffering. The next morning I gave him peace. I read all the comments that come through on my email from this thread and it gives me comfort that I’m not alone but it also breaks my heart to know others are experiencing this too. Joe, know this your more than decade and a half with Oscar was reciprocally a blessing for you both. There are very few things that make me cry, but this situation is already taking the best of me and my family. You are a marvelous dog owner and guardian. Like many of your fur babies, he’s still eating and has an appetite and he seems like himself except at night. Its such a hard decision but she deserves dignity and to be remembered as she was with. If I can’t do that in any other way…meds, behaviour modification, changing the environment….then sometimes you are left with the horrible choice….life with suffering or putting an end to the suffering finally. That makes all kinds of things harder, but letting them go most of all. I am looking for that light in her eyes…. I was very lucky in that Cricket didn’t have many of the night disturbance symptoms, so there was little to see change with the selegiline. Deciding to euthanize your companion animal may be one of the most difficult decisions you ever make. We are okay with or I should say, we have patients with all the symptoms, except for the aggression. Part of me feels like we are jumping the gun…then the other part sees her sad eyes and the lack of spark that was once there. I love her so much. My little fella has Dementia, deafness, going blind, liver problems, and Osteo arthritis, he has been devoted to me for 15 yrs, he still likes a short walk and eats and drinks all day if he could, but my wife thinks its time for him to go, and she is probably right, but I think rightly or wrongly all the excuses not to, betraying him is the worst with guilt, but I really don’t want him to suffer, so I have to let him go, if I can do it. THEN, I found your blog. 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